7 Random Acts of Kindness Learned from Excelsior Therapists


Courtesy of: Random Acts of Kindness Foundation

Just a few simple ways you can celebrate National Random Acts of Kindness Day.

Here at Excelsior, we are blessed with the opportunity to sprinkle kindness in the lives of our clients every day. So in honor of Random Acts of Kindness Day, we’d like to share a few of the not-so-random acts we perform in our work that you could incorporate into your day to lift those around you.

Listen. Sometimes the best gift you can give is simply listening. Avoid offering advice (unless solicited) and focus instead on really understanding what the person is going through.

Our therapists practice this every day while listening to clients share their most personal experiences and profound emotions. While we do offer advice eventually (after all, that’s our job), we begin by empathizing and asking questions, so we can uncover the underlying factors leading to their challenges.

Compliment and/or encourage someone. A simple compliment can make someone’s day a little brighter. Take it one step further and encourage someone to follow their dreams – this can make someone’s future a whole lot brighter.

Excelsior’s approach to wellness is strengths-based, meaning we focus on the positives. We don’t criticize our clients’ missteps; instead we compliment what they do right. Our approach builds upon a family’s inherent strengths to foster resilience in the face of challenges, and cultivate healthy minds, behaviors and relationships.

Open doors through connections. Your network is more powerful than you think. Consider how two people you know might benefit from knowing each other and get them connected! Often all it takes if an open door to change the course of a person’s life.

Here at Excelsior, we connect our clients with resources that will take them further, so they can enjoy sustainable success even after we’re out of their lives. Opening these doors can mean the difference between success and failure in the long-term.

Check in with a family member. Call someone you haven’t talked to in a while just to ask how they’re doing. Better yet, tell them how much you love them.

Excelsior helps open lines of communication between family members to strengthen relationships and preserve the family unit.

Be patient and non-reactive. Next time that certain someone does that certain (very irritating) thing they always do, pause and practice patience so you can respond in a productive and compassionate manner.

Sometimes our clients lash out seemingly unprovoked and act aggressively toward our therapists. Our team understands that these behaviors are a manifestation of something deeper that the person is going through. Patience, empathy and non-reaction is essential for uncovering the deeper issue and productively addressing problem behaviors.

Give of yourself. Whether it’s your time, money, energy or talents, consider giving to someone who is lacking in an area where you enjoy abundance.

Our therapists give their time, talents and resources every day, often to the sacrifice of their personal lives. But this culture of giving is embedded even deeper in our mission. We not only give, but we foster the spirit of giving in our clients as well – Students of the Wheel is a great example of a program dedicated to giving back.

Be kind to yourself. Be grateful for your gifts and forgive yourself for your flaws. Everyone makes mistakes, but happy people practice self-compassion and use their mistakes for encouragement rather than admonishment.

Many of our clients struggle with this. Being kind to themselves is often difficult, but self-compassion is paramount. Recovery is often one step forward and two steps back, which means that clients must practice self-forgiveness and cultivate resilience.


So today, on National Random Acts of Kindness Day, we hope you are inspired by our therapists to find small ways to put smiles on the faces of those around you. It doesn’t take much to brighten someone’s day, and in return you might just find that it brightens yours.